Rabbit Hole

In the midst of being thankful surrounded by the best mates,

I couldn't help but to reflect that for those who are in a relationship, we are somewhat binded by our partner's perception and outlook.

Despite how we reiterate we are an individual and having someone to love would not change how we work, breathe, live and eat.. I'm sure those of you in a relationship have somewhat realised that you begin to do certain things you normally would not do, or doing something beyond your comprehension.. or even, subconciously changing your appearance.

Well, it started with a passing remark by a friend- "Babe, this is unlike you. Why are you keeping long hair?" staring hard, burning deep into my eyes. "Is he happy?"

FYI, Mr Big never implicitly said he wanted me to keep long hair. It's a subconcious attempt to please your partner that you start to begin move away from what you would think it's "ok". And you hope, your changes, no matter how small, would do big in your partner's heart.

How some friends started to distance away from me because their partner's refused to allow them being friends with me. How big a threat I am, I never would know. But I guess big enough to still create a tremor when my name is seen being saved on their partner's phone. They may never realised it but these are the same people who laughed at others being controlled by their partners. Subconciously or conciously, to please their partner, they would severed ties with their friends.

I'm just saying this because I never knew myself that I would be in this situation. No matter how small the actions are.... we change.

We are forever changing. I hope the changes do good to them. I always believe a relationship is one that is not only about love but one full of enriching flow of energy that benefits both parties. There is no point being with someone that doesn't give you satisfaction in life.

So if you do change, I hope you change because you like it and it do good for you. Not to please and shut your partner off.