Marriage

The 2nd post:
Marriage.

The purpose of marriage.

What is marriage to you? Is marriage a process of continuing the act of love with a huge display of affection in front of everyone by a ring? or a tradition?

Let me bring you deeper into my thoughts.

Marriage is something I do not take lightly. I take pride in my parents, despite their bickering and utter annoyance towards each other, they continue to yearn for each other's comfort. They continue to kiss every morning at the front gate. My dad role is the man who brings the main income - note, i said main income, not bigger income. My mom is the woman who forces her children to school, ensure enough money gets by without us starving outside and inside the small house they bought together for the last 25 years, with no debt for the last 20 years. Because my parents are also not financially savvy, everything in this house was paid cash, upfront, always in full amount. Never on credit or installment.

Marriage is something I do not take lightly. I do not want to go into the position where my children couldn't get proper attention, necessity or food. I do not want my husband to be in debt. I do not want my husband to seek others help, seeking money for a wedding or buy my baby's milk. I want self reliance.

Marriage can be fun, self fulfilling, enjoying and a time of reflecting. But the problem with the society, marriage is just thought of that and nothing beyond.

So you may think I need a man who is rich enough to support me and bring away all these debts. The thing is I have never grown into a family full of money, maybe now, my parents can say they are finally stable. That's 28 years of marriage. No... my point is. All those achievements were from scratch. From their own sweat. From this thing called hardwork. Every single dollar was saved or spent on food, our education and the house bills. Any man can work... but can he protect his family and do his best in all capacity of his income, like my father? The one who worked in a place he barely liked but he continues because it feeds the family. Would you do that? To work for 30 years at the same bloody place you hate just so you dont get retrenched or kicked out or unemployed so your family can live?

Marriage is something I do not take lightly. So I hate it everytime the subject crop up in my face, when am I getting married? What's the point of marriage? Why do you want to get married?

If people are happy that way, they are good enough. No marriage is going to say you would be happier when you signed that piece of paper saying "Husband&wife". Whatever rocks your boat.

And on my boat. I dont believe marriage is going to make me happier than I already am. Maybe later in years I see the point of settling down, but for now.. please. do not ask me that question again.